"Waiting to hear"
I interviewed for a job two weeks ago, and I thought the interview went very well. The
interviewer told me that she would call me at the end of the following week for a second
interview. I sent a thank you, and thought I did everything right.
Last week we had problems with our phone lines, so I
called on Friday to give her a voice mail number. I wanted to ask how the process was
going, but she didn't give me a chance to ask the question, just took the new number and
said 'thanks for letting me know' and 'bye.'
Now it's Thursday, and still nothing. I'm trying to
convince myself that I'm being paranoid, that most likely she was in the middle of
something, and filling this job has been put on the back burner, but I really wish I knew
what was going on. The $64 question is -- should I call and ask how the interviewing is
going and if I'm still in the running?
You know, this whole process is like dating through the personals -- you answer an ad,
hoping your letter is sexy enough to get you a date. You go on a date -- sometimes it's
just awful and a big waste of time, but on occasion you and your date really seem to hit
it off. Weeks go by, though, and he doesn't call... then the agonizing begins: Should I
call? Will I look desparate if I call, or does it show I'm interested? Maybe he's just
really busy... Ugh. I hate it. Thank god I'm married and don't have to do this to find a
relationship -- I'd really want to take a big swan dive off a bridge! If I'm ever in a
position to hire anyone, I promise: NO HEADGAMES! Thanks for letting me vent.
Oh, I love your analogy to dating! Interviewing is very much like that. And here's
the answer: don't date anyone who isn't introduced to you by a trusted friend, or before
you've checked them out carefully. If you like what you learn, have your mutual friend put
a bug in your 'target's' ear before you 'go out'. The same goes for managers -- check them
out before you meet them. That's essentially how headhunters get people and employers
together. It's a delicate process -- and the more help you have, the better your
likelihood of success.
One question: is the interviewer you mentioned in the personnel department? If she is,
stop wasting your time. You will probably never hear back if two weeks have gone by. Let
it go. Get on to the next opportunity.
If the interviewer is the hiring manager and that's how she treated you when you called
back, well, you're not tops on her list. Again, go on to the next opportunity.
Sometimes a company takes a while to make a decision, and it's for good reasons. More
often, when it takes this long, the dance is over. Find another partner. Don't beat
yourself up. You'll never know why they aren't interested, or what you did 'wrong'.
<< but I really wish I knew what was going on.>>
The answer to that one is, there's probably nothing going on. Except no one's taking
responsibility for sharing that with you. There's little that's less forgivable in my
opinion than someone who takes up your valuable time and won't give you a decision or the
time of day when you call them back. You can tell her I said that.
The best alternative to trying to decide whether to call them back again is to call
someone else. Just like dating, eh? :-)
For more help with the 'next' one, I suggest you read my articles on Ask The Headhunter. I
think you'll find them helpful.
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